Sometimes when we are feeling sad, its important just to feel the sadness. Like a snake shedding its skin, old feelings of remorse, regret, hurt and anger often have to come up in order to be released (disentangled, gently dismissed). On the other side we are a better person, capable of a happier life, who we are when we are no longer burdened by the buried feelings that weighed us down, or the self-defeating patterns that the pain produced.